Friends....Love them as they are

As get older, some of us hope and pray that we become wiser. As for me, I know that I am not perfect by any means. I try my best (and will continue) to listen to my heart, my friends and my family so that I can become a better person.

Recently I had an epiphany. I realized I was trying to ‘make’ someone (inadvertently) be who they were not designed to be. I guess I’ve become accustomed to the “MJ” and “Melanie”s of this world.

I sat back and thought about these two friends of mine. I realized that they have been there for me on so many levels and have had my back throughout the years. They have also allowed me the honor of having their backs as well. They have been there and stood shoulder to shoulder beside me during life’s battles.

I have this other friend who I love, don’t get me wrong. But they always debate everything that comes out of my mouth. They jump to the other side of the situation that involves me to protect that other side. LOL Its actually become quite comical because I have learned that when it comes to me, this person will never listen to have my side. And you know what, that’s completely ok.

For example, I will tell this person that another person told me. Something direct like “Can you believe that**** told me that she thinks Black people are dirty?” This friend of mine will follow up with “I don’t think she meant it like that.” LOL!! I quickly reply with “Those were her exact words, how could you NOT think she meant it like that?’ The friend will pause and have this look of ‘thought’ as if they are trying to figure it out then say something like “Well, maybe she just said it because she does not know better. You shouldn’t be bothered by that.” LOL!! See….its comical.


*** INTERJECTION *** I just received a text message from my friend MJ just now. I asked MJ to attend an event with me because I know there will be a lot of people there that wont talk to me because of a current situation and I needed a true friend there. This is the text he sent: “No matter what the story. ‘forget them’ for not talking to you….” - See, everyone, that is loyalty at it finest. 

These true friends, Melanie and MJ, will not hesitate to tell me when I am wrong as well. I feel that is important for any relationship. However, they don’t find it their daily quest to debate every word that comes out of my mouth and purposely jump to the other side JUST because I am involved.

This blog is dedicated to them. The friends that love me, have my back, have my best interest at heart and have always been honest and truthful. I love you guys. I am blessed to have you in my life and honored to be your friend.

-Byron