There are people that have their own dating rules tailored to fit their needs, desires and expectations. Then there are the people that judge them. Why is that?
For me, I have an idea on dating some consider ‘out the norm’ for my…how should I say this… ‘Lifestyle’. For one, the person has to have a strong relationship with God. I watch how they treat their mother as well. Lets be honest, if someone treats their mom (and/or father) poorly, why would they treat you any better? Next, they have to be 35 years old or older. This is a personal preference for me because I cannot see myself dating anyone in their 20s. I am not saying that everyone on their 20s is immature (or that everyone 35 and older is mature), it’s merely a preference. Also, I am a HUGE fan of the dark hair and eyes. THAT gets me every time. *Big Smile
With that being said, I find myself in constant conversations my dating rules and preference. I find myself defending this ‘list’ with people until I reach a point of frustration. Then I say to the person “Wait. These are my preferences. Why do you have an issue with it?”
For some, it was their way of letting me know that I was maybe ‘boxing’ myself in. For others, I believe it was a way of saying that maybe they would make a good candidate.
I started thinking about the friends of mine and their ‘box’ reference. Was I putting myself into this metaphoric box; which would prevent ‘the one’ from reaching me? Possibly – so I decided to make some adjustments. I will not budge on the relationship with God requirement. I might think twice (or even three times) about the age minimum. To let the dark hair and eyes requirement go; that might take a bit more persuading *Bigger Smile
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