I heard once before that your friends are extensions of you. The message that I took from that was this:
For the most part, you and your friend(s) may share the same views, political status/opinions, and views of right/wrong. So when you decide to develop new friendships, what would be the blueprint towards a fruitful and prosperous friendship?
This is my opinion (Side note: I am STILL learning because, apparently, I have chosen some shady individuals in the last year). I believe that it is important to know that each person is truly and individual. However, I believe the ‘core’ of each person has to match up in some way or another (even if it is a small percentage). For instance, you have a friend that has multiple friends that they keep close and these people (in some ways) abuse their children. You have a strong dislike (and even contempt) for these types of parents. Your friend not only allow these people to be in their lives, but they even let these negligent parents around their own children.
Another example is this: Your new friend cannot, will not and do not understand human emotion. They make you feel as if you are less than a human being when you tap into these feelings; it is because they are afraid of what they do not understand. You, on the other hand, have been in touch with your emotions and feel they make you human. Emotional detachment (emotional retardation) is foreign to you. Instead of saying they do not understand, they call you a**holes and ignore your feelings altogether.
At the end of the day, we should look at these friends and remember they represent you because they are ‘extensions of you’. Do you want to continue and make excuses for them? Or should you cut your loses, and move on?
As in most relationships (friendship or lover), love is usually not the problem. Its all the other ‘stuff’ that comes with it.
What ever happened to the Melanie Green's, Tracy Barnes' and Larry Lee's of the world?? The friends that have your back no matter what and will truly be there to comfort and listen to you?
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